Helicopter parents won't like these, but good parents will
Pat uses child-friendly kitchen knives to show how involving kids in real household tasks can build skill, confidence, and a sense of contribution.
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199 videosThe Story of The Fathers Guild
Pat tells the story of how The Fathers Guild began and how his own work as a father shaped its purpose.
Father Son Coming Of Age Retreat
An introduction to the father-son retreat, where dads and sons mark the transition toward adulthood through shared challenges and conversations about responsibility.
A lot of fathers forget to protect their family from this
Pat discusses a father’s responsibility to protect his family and create enough emotional safety at home for his partner and kids to disagree with him.
Teaching My Sons To Snatch For The First Time
Pat coaches his sons through their first attempts at the Olympic snatch and shows what teaching a new lift to kids looks like in practice.
I am proud of how I handled this conflict
Pat recounts a conflict over homeschool work and reflects on staying calm, listening to his son, and choosing a proportionate consequence.
Three types of generational trauma you might be passing on without knowing it
Pat looks at three patterns fathers can pass on through their example, including how they handle health habits, the pursuit of money, and their sense of agency.
Not All Fathers Belong Here
Pat explains the expectations of The Fathers Guild and the kind of commitment to practice and accountability the community asks of fathers.
Do this to avoid losing trust with your teens
Pat explains how being honest with kids about why you hold a view and making room for other perspectives can help preserve trust through the teen years.
The worst parenting mistake we can make? #parenting #fatherhood
Pat explains how stress from elsewhere in a parent’s day can lead to an outsized consequence and shares how to repair after overreacting.
How much TV or Sugar should I give my kids?
Pat talks through how he decides what limits to set around TV and sugary foods for his children.
Helicopter Parents Make Dangerous Kids
Pat argues that giving kids room to handle age-appropriate risk helps them learn judgment and develop confidence in their own abilities.
This video is a challenge you should take
Pat asks parents to list the qualities they hope their children develop, then look at which of those qualities they need to model more consistently themselves.
The Strength To Say No
Pat explains how he decides when to say no to requests for sweets, screens, and similar treats, and why following through matters.
A 1 Step Process For Making Better Decisions As A Father
Pat shows how taking a breath, counting, or stepping away briefly can create enough space to choose a better response in a heated parenting moment.
Setting a higher standard for Fatherhood
Pat reflects on the example fathers set and what it means to expect more of himself in everyday family life.
Building the community that produces the worlds best fathers
Pat explains what pushed him to start a community for fathers and how shared challenges, reflection, and accountability would help members practice together.
Check this New Podcast with Lamont Lomax #Podcast
A clip promoting the Lamont Lomax episode on staying present and influential in your children’s lives.
Boys are powerful, and as they age, they have to learn how to harness that power.
Pat urges fathers to model responsible use of strength and talk with their boys about how to handle growing power.
If this is your patterning, I highly recommend reflecting on it a bit and .........
Pat explains how stepping in to do every task can undermine a child’s confidence in their ability to figure it out.
This is not an ad. I did get given these knives. I tried them out. I think they're awesome.
Pat gives a quick look at the child-friendly knives he tried and points to his longer video about kids helping in the kitchen.
Check this New Podcast with Brennan Falks #Podcast
A clip from the Brennan Falks episode on how parents teach, guide, and model the values they want their kids to learn.
5 Universal Laws Parents Should Understand.
Pat applies five familiar principles to parenting, including interpreting a child’s behavior in light of skills they are still learning.
I have my shirt off because I just worked out and it's hot. #shorts
Pat calls on fathers to pay attention to the work they do on their character and habits behind closed doors.
I've met a number of men who live this balance. Hoping to meet many more. #shorts
Pat describes mature masculinity as combining strength and power with warmth, playfulness, and a willingness to let people in.
Treating the child like they are the center of the universe will make your life harder #shorts
Pat reflects on the long-term effects of organizing family life around a child’s every want.
Check this New Podcast with Jamie Glowacki #Podcast #shorts
A preview of Jamie Glowacki and Pat’s discussion of parental authority, boundaries, and responsibility at home.
The principle is sound and I've used it many times. #shorts
Pat explains how natural consequences can help children learn, especially when the parent stays matter-of-fact.
If you examine your life closely, there are hundreds of opportunities to do this exact thing #shorts
Pat explains how letting his sons handle packing food for the beach helped them learn to take responsibility for it.
I am specifically talking about smart phones with relatively unrestricted access. #shorts
Pat discusses the difference between staying reachable and giving kids unrestricted smartphone access, with basic phones as an option.
Please do this with my information as well. #shorts
Pat encourages viewers to use their own judgment when deciding which ideas to adopt, including the ones he shares.
Of course always balance the struggle with the support. That's the authoritative way. #shorts
Pat describes authoritative parenting as pairing a child’s opportunity to struggle with support they can count on.
Yes, I know I shouldn't film while I'm driving but feel free to tell me that in a comment. #shorts
Pat explains how parents can be friendly and supportive while still making the decisions children need adults to make.
The higher our own ceilings are, the better start our children will have. #shorts
Pat asks fathers to develop their physical, emotional, and relational capacities so their kids have a stronger example to build from.
If you are permissive, you'll likely see this video as too aggressive. #shorts
Pat reacts to a Purpose Driven Family clip that illustrates authoritative parenting through a combination of firmness and kindness.
To be truly authoritative you have to have a higher capacity to handle many different situat #shorts
Pat describes the range authoritative parenting asks of adults, including clear rules, compassion, playfulness, and consistent standards.
Parenting is exhausting and difficult, especially when you are new to it. #shorts
Pat explains how putting work into structure and autonomy early can make parenting easier as children become more capable.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A Donovan Owens podcast preview on personal principles and the daily practices that help men live by them.
I honestly think that there's going to be a separation in humanity #shorts
Pat considers how easy access to AI-generated answers could affect independent judgment and the value of lived experience.
Getting an answer is easy. Knowing whether it’s a good one is harder. #shorts
Pat and Ben Skutnik discuss testing the answers you get, checking your reasoning with other people, and changing course when the evidence calls for it.
I've heard a few people quote this recently, that it was "necessary" for raising a good kid. #shorts
Pat questions claims that physical punishment is required to raise good children and discusses the need to match discipline to the child.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A clip promoting the Donovan Owens episode about building routines and applying principles in daily life.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A preview of Donovan Owens’s conversation with Pat about accountability, personal systems, and practicing the kind of man you want to be.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts #shorts
Donovan Owens defines masculinity through the safety, support, resources, and accountability a man brings to the people around him.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A clip promoting Pat’s conversation with Donovan Owens on turning values and intentions into repeatable habits.
Part of being an Authoritative parent is pushing the threshold of their capabilities. #shorts
Pat encourages parents to let children help with age-appropriate tasks so they can build confidence through experience.
Part of being an authoritative parent requires planning on the front end.
Pat urges partners to agree on what they want for their kids and decide which boundaries and follow-through will support it.
Authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and neglectful #shorts
Pat introduces the four parenting styles and explains the balance of warmth and structure he aims for as an authoritative parent.
You may actually have to pause the TV stand between them and the screen #shorts
Pat shares how advance notice, letting children turn off the TV, and offering an active transition can ease the end of screen time.
If you want low capacity children give them either no boundaries or extremely tight boundaries
Pat explains how children benefit from boundaries that give them room to develop and invites parents to reflect on their default level of control.
To be clear, I'm not talking about fitness I'm talking about personal development. #shorts
Pat talks about finding people who challenge you to grow as a father, partner, friend, and leader.
"Life before death, strength before weakness, journey before destination" #shorts
Pat explains how the first ideal of the Knights Radiant from The Stormlight Archive became part of The Fathers Guild’s values.
Listen to it, learn from it. Take on board a little bit of it. Not Every Piece of Advice Is #shorts
Pat encourages viewers to learn from advice and test whether it fits the real circumstances of their lives.
Be great! It starts with looking in the mirror🪞- Episode 24 with Pat, the Fathers Guild Dad, out now
A podcast clip in which Pat calls on fathers to take ownership of the work their families benefit from.
Kids become confident by doing hard things, not by avoiding them. #shorts
Pat discusses giving children a chance to do something difficult and discover their ability to handle it.
❤️🤘🏻 Your Comfort Level Isn't Your Child's Limit #shorts
Pat encourages fathers to examine their own comfort with risk and consider what their child is already capable of doing.
Anybody else have some thoughts on that? manosphere #shorts
Pat reflects on why he follows conversations about the manosphere and what he hopes men can take from those conversations for their families.
Training is another area where we can pass on a better relationship than we may have been given.
Pat asks fathers to model an enjoyable relationship with exercise so their kids grow up seeing movement as something they can do for themselves.
Across my 4 kids there are very different ways of getting them to listen and respond better. #shorts
Pat shares why he adjusts the way he asks and teaches across four children with different personalities and motivations.
One of my core principles as a father and a man is honesty and integrity. #shorts
Pat explains why honesty with himself and with other people is foundational to the way he wants to develop as a man and father.
As a father of four strong willed, feral gentlemen I can tell you there is another way... #shorts
Pat reflects on the patience and strength involved in raising four strong-willed boys with a deliberate approach to discipline.
Modern fatherhood isn't just about providing | Podcast with Darren Silver #shorts
Darren Silver talks about nature, awareness, and choosing what kind of father and partner you want to become.
Distract & Redirect: A Parenting Technique That Actually Helps #shorts
Pat demonstrates distracting and redirecting a child as a way to move through a difficult moment.
My goal is to raise Feral Gentlemen ! #shorts
Pat shares his aim of raising boys who have a sense of adventure and know how to treat others well.
Yelling at Kids Is Not a Sign of Strength #shorts
Pat challenges the idea that yelling builds strong children and discusses the strength it takes to manage his own reactions.
I’ve received several messages recently asking this question in response to my recent content.
Pat explains why he returned to social media after three years away and started sharing his own perspective on fatherhood.
I’ve had a few DM’s recently about this due to a few of my recent posts. #shorts
Pat answers why he still posts despite his reservations about social media and talks about creating The Fathers Guild in response.
"For my kids, I want that man to be me." Be the Man You Want Your Kids to Become #shorts
Pat reflects on the responsibility of becoming the kind, capable man his kids can look to as an example.
If you live by the do as I say not as I do motto I recommend examining that a bit closer. #shorts
Pat asks fathers to examine whether their behavior gives children the same example as the instructions they give them.
If you’re looking to build emotionally stunted, underdeveloped adults… let phones raise your kids.
Pat discusses the effects of leaning heavily on phones and the role of parental attention, boundaries, and conversation in child development.
As kids push their own boundaries they become more and more capable. #shorts
Pat explains how a series of smaller challenges gave his boys the confidence and skill to handle bigger ones.
3 Parenting Hills I’m Willing to Die On #shorts
Pat shares three strong parenting views, including giving kids chances to go barefoot and being honest with them about death.
Building Men in a World Adrift #shorts #podcast #interview #motivational
Don Ross outlines five qualities his men’s groups work to develop, including courage, practical skill, and honor.
Adulthood shouldn't mean the end of your tribe. Reclaim your honor. #shorts
Pat discusses the role of close male friendships and accountability in maintaining a sense of honor through adulthood.
Why Men Fail Alone (But Win Together) | Isolation is the Enemy. Community is the Cure #shorts
Pat discusses how taking action and holding one another accountable in a men’s group can help people sustain change.
Stop Being A Lone Wolf | Honor Is Earned In The Tribe | Don Ross #podcast #manhood #honor #shorts
Don Ross explains how men earn honor through their actions, commitments, and accountability to people they respect.
This is why I just try to be the best, I can be, of Myself. It makes the rest of my parenting easier
Pat describes how working on his own habits makes parenting easier as his children take cues from what he does.
The Weight of Fatherhood: Achieving True Freedom #TheFathersGuild #HerosJourney #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat explains why accepting the weight of fatherhood is central to the sense of freedom he describes in his family framework.
Stop the "Do As I Say" Parenting Trap 🛡️ #Fatherhood #HerosJourney #RaisingLeaders #shorts
Pat asks parents to show their kids why a habit matters by practicing it themselves.
I’m here for the Heroes. | 15 days left to join me on May The Hero’s Journey #shorts
Pat invites fathers to take on The Hero’s Journey and consider the part they want to play in their family’s story.
In all reality, All four of our boys take turns being the wild one. I’m here for it. 🌪️👊 #shorts
Pat talks about helping each of his four boys put their energy to use while learning to handle limits.
Phones steal our presence. A developing brain doesn’t stand a chance. Be the filter. 📲 #shorts
Pat asks parents to set boundaries around phones and protect children’s attention from highly stimulating content.
Life is just one big series of challenges, so why not start the training in the living room? #shorts
Pat uses playful living-room challenges to give his kids practice trying hard, winning, and losing gracefully.
Stop Being Fragile, Start Being Honest #Fatherhood #TheFathersGuild #HerosJourney #Honesty #shorts
Pat discusses why being honest about vulnerability can help men develop the strength to face difficult things.
When I die I want my kids to find strength in the memory of me. Its Strength on standby. #shorts
Pat reflects on the example he hopes his children can draw strength from after he dies.
Stop Telling Your Kids They Are Fragile #shortsvideo #shorts #fatherhood #parenting
Pat asks parents to consider what hovering, preventing risk, or taking over a task communicates about their child’s capability.
This has been blowing my mind recently with the contrarian stances I see people taking about on here
Pat discusses using skepticism to learn and recognizing when taking a contrary position stops helping him see the issue more clearly.
My Personal Journey with Anxiety | Real Talk on Mental Health | The Father’s Inner Battle #shorts
Pat talks about his experience with anxiety and the role of admitting fear and asking for support in becoming a steadier leader.
Parenting with a Purpose | The Fathers Guild Podcast #motivation #parenting #podcast #shorts
Joe and Ashley Jernigan explain how shared values can help parents make decisions and lead a family with a clearer purpose.
Redefining Success for the Next Generation : The Father’s Choice. #shorts
Pat reflects on what kind of success he wants his sons to have and the role a father plays in setting that example.
Parenting vs. Shaming. Stop calling it 'shaming' and start calling it parenting. 🏃♂️ #shorts
Pat talks about taking responsibility for guiding children and how discussions about that role get interpreted as shaming.
How to Turn Your Thoughts into Reality | Devin Linder x The Father's Guild #shorts
Devin Linder discusses using visualization and accountability to make a career and life change he had been thinking about.
Stop trading your child’s health for a moment of quiet. 📱🚫 #shorts
Pat reflects on the trade-off between using a phone to buy a quiet moment and giving children room to handle boredom.
Wisdom given vs wisdom earned. Lived experience is the only real teacher. 🛡️✨ #shorts
Pat argues that experience and practice are how information becomes wisdom a father can use.
Raising a Leader: When He Tells ME How to Do It! 😂❤️ #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat shares a moment when his child confidently tells him how to do something and reflects on watching him find his own voice.
Sometimes you hear a message that just clicks. Thank you @blakeoftoday for a vital reminder. #shorts
Pat credits Blake Kasemeier for a reminder that how fathers lead, love, and reflect becomes part of the example their children live with.
What actually makes the difference between a "good" man and a great one? 🤔💬 #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat asks viewers what quality or practice they think helps a good man grow into a great one.
The 13-Year Parenting Secret: Play The Long Game 🏆 #Fatherhood #parenting #parentingchannel #shorts
Pat reflects on encouraging his son to try something over many years and giving him room to choose when he was ready.
Huge shoutout to @taylornegley_ for sharing such a great example.🏆 #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat highlights Taylor Negley as an example of how children learn from adults who put their values into practice.
How to Be Your Son's Real-Life Hero 🦸♂️ #Fatherhood #Parenting #shorts
Pat uses his young son’s idea of a superhero to reflect on being someone his children can look up to in daily life.
Love this quote from @dadsavesamerica podcast. Strong Fathers Build Strong Families. #father #shorts
Pat shares a Dad Saves America quote and reflects on the influence strong fathers can have on their families.
Practical advice for fathers who want to lead from the front. Full breakdown is on YouTube. #shorts
A short introduction to Pat’s longer advice on discipline, intention, and the example fathers set at home.
Doing the Work as a Father Changes Everything. There Is No More Important Task Than This #shorts
Pat encourages fathers who know they have work to do to take it seriously because their children are watching how they respond.
Your Sons Dont Need Advice - They Need an Example. Stop Talking. Start Showing. #fatherhood #shorts
Pat asks fathers to show their sons what strength, kindness, and facing difficulty look like through their daily actions.
Honor is dead, but Ill see what I can do #fantasy #stormlight #redrising #fatherhood #shorts
Pat talks about finding examples of honor, masculinity, and fatherhood in epic fantasy books.
Intentional Men Build Better Lives Conversation with @tfitx #intentionalliving #shorts
In a conversation with @tfitx, Pat talks about living with intention and what discipline and purpose look like for a father.
Owning My Failures Made Me a Better Father and Leader #shorts
Pat reflects on reviewing past failures with grace, recognizing his part in recurring patterns, and using that knowledge to become more accountable.
Take the Third Path - The One Most Men Avoid #fatherhood #masculinity #shorts
Pat calls for a deliberate approach to masculinity built around discipline, responsibility, and purposeful action.
A Real Conversation on Fatherhood Masculinity w Michael Hustle #fatherhood #htketl #shorts
A preview of Pat’s conversation with Michael Hustle about fatherhood, masculinity, and the way men develop.
Letting Kids Take Risks Confidence, Trust, and the Unknown #parenting #fatherhood #htketl #shorts
Pat reflects on giving a child room to take a risk, watching the result, and using that feedback to build trust.
Raising Kids Through Adventure Lessons From an Adventurous Father #fatherhood #podcast #shorts
Pat highlights Erich Leidums’s perspective on giving children a childhood with outdoor adventure and room to build skills.
Masculinity isnt defined by colors or words. Grow stronger. #shorts
Pat questions judging masculinity by color choices or language and asks viewers to think about where actual strength comes from.
Untitled #shorts
Pat explains why he wants to talk openly with his sons about sex, sexuality, and pornography before they encounter it on a device.
Be the Role Model Your Kids Need Ep. 13 #fatherhood #selfcare #thefathersguild #truth #shorts
On Marc LaFleur’s podcast, Pat talks about working on the example he sets and how small changes can affect the children watching him.
Say yes when kids ask to help. Its messy, but it matters.#fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat encourages parents to say yes when a young child asks to help, even if the task will take longer or make a mess.
Parenting Tough Questions Showing Both Sides Sharing My Beliefs #parenting #father #shorts
Pat describes showing his kids more than one side of a difficult question and explaining how he reached his own view.
Changing is hard. But changing because your kids need a better human - thats worth it. #shorts
Pat reflects on how wanting his children to have a better example gives him a strong reason to work through difficult changes.
Kids dont need everything, but they do need space #fatherhood #parenting #htketl #father #shorts
Pat makes the case for giving children room to explore, make mistakes, and recover as they develop independence.
Teaching my 3.5-year-old to throw knives? Trust and safety go hand in hand #fatherhood #shorts
Pat shares old footage of a son learning to throw knives alongside his older brother and reflects on differences in coordination and readiness.
One of these is more important than the other two #fatherhood #father #parenting #htketl #shorts
Pat asks viewers to consider which of three priorities deserves the most attention in fatherhood.
Be Present Give Stability to others Through Focused Attention Today #fatherhood #manhood #shorts
Pat shares an intention to give the people he meets his full attention and treat that presence as a way to offer stability.
Let Them Explore Nature Adventures Build Strong, Happy Kids #adventure #parenting #shorts
Pat encourages families to get outdoors and give kids room to explore, get muddy, and learn from the terrain around them.
Why Real Strength Matters More Than Just Looking Strong Like, share, and subscribe #shorts
Pat reflects on the kind of strength and physical capability that can help men serve and protect their families.
Guided by this wisdom from @rorymckernan for 10 years #fatherhood #parenting #HTKETL #shorts
Pat credits Rory McKernan for shaping his goal of raising children who can make good decisions for themselves.
10 years collecting tools now theyre finally ready to use them with me #lucky #forge #shorts
Pat shares the payoff of collecting tools for years and waiting until his boys were ready to ask to work with him at the forge.
Confidence grows when you let them try-even if it takes years #parenting #fatherhood #shorts
Pat describes modeling a skill, waiting for a child’s interest, and giving them a chance to try as a route to confidence.
Theres no one right way to feed kidsstay flexible and lead by example. #food #nutrition #shorts
Pat encourages flexibility around feeding children and describes modeling a healthier relationship with food as a place to start.
Just checking in. Im still here just working on some other projects. #fatherhood #retreat #shorts
Pat checks in after time away from social media and shares how work on his property’s retreat space has been taking up his attention.
Praise whats good. Call out what hurts. Both matter in fatherhood. #fatherhood #dadlife #shorts
Pat makes the case for naming what people do well and speaking up calmly when their actions hurt themselves or others.
Have had a number of these in my comments recently. #fatherhood #masculinity #selfawareness #shorts
Pat uses a sheepdog analogy to reflect on combining real strength with gentleness when talking about masculinity.
This is how you fail fatherhood.Some messages just miss the mark completely #father #failure #shorts
Pat reacts to a parenting message he believes misses what fathers owe their children.
Strong kind. Ive got work to do. #strong #kind #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on his own work to model both strength and kindness for the boys he is raising.
When I eventually host a fatherhood retreat at my house, this will 100 be part of it #shorts
Pat discusses making blacksmithing part of a future fatherhood retreat and why working with metal feels meaningful to him.
Ever talk food philosophy with your kid? Might change everything. #food #nutrition #shorts
Pat encourages parents to talk with their children about what they believe about food and give those choices some thought early.
This Broke My Heart Screens and Our Kids #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat responds to a clip about children and screens and reflects on how adults choose to use technology around their kids.
Be the worlds best diaper changerits not a competition, its an infinite game #dadlife #shorts
Pat encourages dads to take ownership of diaper changes and enjoy doing that piece of caregiving well.
There is a balance to be struck here #fatherhood #parenting #wayofkings #shorts
A brief fatherhood reflection about finding balance, with a reference to The Way of Kings.
This little guy gets involved in everythingsometimes too much! #Parenting #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat shares how eager his youngest is to join in what he and his wife are doing and the care that takes when he tries too much.
Fatherhood - International Parenting Podcast with @intentionalmindspodcast #fatherhood #parenting
A clip from the International Parenting Podcast about how an involved father can help a child build confidence and feel secure.
Fatherhood - International Parenting Podcast with @intentionalmindspodcast #fatherhood #parenting
A preview of Pat’s International Parenting Podcast conversation about the outcomes he hopes to work toward as an intentional father.
Do we really need legislation to limit this access? Isnt it our responsibility? #ScreenTime #shorts
Pat asks what limits parents can set around children’s internet use while the larger debate about regulation continues.
Setting meaningful boundaries helps shape my kids journey through life. #RaisingKids #shorts
Pat describes asking why a boundary exists so the limits he sets have a clear purpose for his children.
Connect Redirect A Simple Parenting Hack That Actually Works! #parenting #fatherhood #shorts
Pat explains the connect-and-redirect idea from The Whole-Brain Child and how he has used a similar approach with his kids.
Honesty strengthens your soul even when its hard #Honesty #LifeLessons #Parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on the value of telling the truth when it is difficult and on teaching honesty by practicing it around children.
No, Im not paying my kids to make me yell heres why this actually works #noyellchallenge #shorts
Pat responds to questions about whether his $5 No Yell Challenge gives his children an incentive to provoke him and explains how he set the rules.
Finding the Balance Between Caution and Confidence in Parenting #fear #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on teaching appropriate caution while helping children build enough confidence to face unfamiliar situations.
Would love to hear how others handle it and why you have chosen to do what you do #shorts
Pat explains his family’s approach to swearing, including how intent, the people around you, and the setting can change what is appropriate.
Do as I say, not as I do is the worst parenting advice ever. Lead by example! parenting #shorts
Pat explains how children notice the gap between a parent’s instructions and behavior and asks fathers to model what they want to teach.
Finding Better Ways to DisciplineNo Yelling, Just Growth Boundaries #fatherhood #shorts
Pat describes using his No Yell Challenge to practice holding a boundary and disciplining his children with a calmer response.
True Discipline Requires LoveTeaching Kids Accountability Without Fear #love #discipline #shorts
Pat describes loving discipline as showing children how their choices affect others and giving them a chance to take responsibility.
Death is part of life. Being honest with kids mattersjust be ready for all the questions. #shorts
Pat explains why he answers children’s questions about death honestly, including where their food comes from and what they see outdoors.
@rorymckernan shared this with me 10 years ago, and it’s guided me ever since. ❤️💀🤘🏻
Pat credits Rory McKernan for teaching him to aim for children who can make good decisions on their own.
Kinda weird dunking on an ancient philosopher, but Im pretty sure he doesnt mind. #shorts
Using Marcus Aurelius as a prompt, Pat reflects on the example and attention he can offer his children through everyday parenting.
Kids follow what you do, not what you say. Show them how to choose hard things. #shorts
Pat explains how he invites his children to train with him and models choosing difficult physical work even when it is less appealing.
Setting Boundaries Protecting Kids from Social Media Bad Habits #Parenting #fatherhood #shorts
Pat talks about setting firm limits on children’s social media access and holding those boundaries calmly.
Balancing work and love means meeting needs while making sure they feel loved. #Parenting #shorts
Pat discusses meeting a family’s practical needs and making room for the relationships that help them feel loved.
I think about this often, Words from @save.your.sons #parenting #dad #father #FatherlyAdvice #shorts
Pat shares words from @save.your.sons that influence how he thinks about the long-term example he sets as a father.
So very thankful for this and didnt think I would be. Having 4 kids helps with the stacking #shorts
Pat describes unexpectedly enjoying the work of stacking firewood with his four kids as they get ready for winter.
A false choice said with conviction is a strong way to win social media I have heard. #shorts
Pat discusses recognizing false choices in online arguments and looking for an option beyond domination or submission.
Do you hand your kids a phone? Why or why not? Lets talk parenting and tech! #parenting #shorts
Pat talks about when he hands his kids a phone and how he balances teaching them to use technology with setting limits.
Lets match the discipline to the crime and own our mistakes as parents. #fatherhood #parenting
Pat explains why a consequence should fit the behavior and why it matters to own it when your reaction goes too far.
Let kids be kidsno need for politics before 13. Play, dream, explore! #ParentingTips #shorts
Pat shares why he prefers to give younger children more time for play, curiosity, and exploration before involving them in complex political topics.
Question studies, rethink languagetheres no one way to do things! #CriticalThinking #shorts
Pat encourages viewers to ask how a study was done, funded, and framed before relying on claims about what it shows.
Take Responsibility or Stay a Boy with a Mans Face Hard Truth About Growing Up #manhood #shorts
Pat describes accepting responsibility for your actions and your life as an important step toward maturity.
The Power of Saying No Building Better Relationships with Your Kids #parenting #No #shorts
Pat discusses how saying no can give children boundaries they can learn to make decisions within.
The Power of Honesty Build Integrity for Yourself and Your Kids #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat talks about aligning his actions with what he says and modeling that kind of honesty for his children.
Ever try to hammer a screw? Give it a shot sometime. See how that pans out for ya. #shorts
Pat uses a hammer and a screw to illustrate why parents benefit from having several ways to respond to different situations.
I stick with option 1 for now. Later, option 2 is fine, but option 3? Not for us#options #shorts
Pat compares three parenting options and explains why he favors the first for younger kids and allows more flexibility as they get older.
Boundaries vs. chaos is gentle parenting misunderstood? Lets talk balance in raising kids #shorts
Pat explores how gentle parenting can include love, guidance, and clear boundaries children can rely on.
Capability is key from fixing things to protecting loved ones. True strength is readiness. #shorts
Pat discusses being able to solve everyday problems and use physical strength to help or protect the people who depend on him.
CrossFit Community Where High Support Meets High Expectations #CrossFitCommunity #FitnessJou #shorts
Pat reflects on a CrossFit community built around high expectations and people who support each other in meeting them.
Foster curiosity, courage, and independence in kids. Let them help, explore, and grow #shorts
Pat explains how letting children help, explore, and test their limits can give their natural curiosity and independence room to develop.
I am not, and have never been caviler with my children. #parenting #fatherhood #ParentingTi #shorts
Pat explains how he gives his children supervised chances to learn and builds trust according to what each child can handle.
Raising Sons Who Never Need MeBut Always Welcome Me #FatherhoodGoals #ParentingJourney #Rai #shorts
Pat describes wanting to raise capable, independent sons who grow up to value the relationship they have built with him.
Small Risks,Big Lessons Parenting Insights #TrustKids #LetThemExplore #ParentingLife #BuildingTrust
Pat discusses letting children explore within manageable risks so both parents and kids can learn what they can handle.
Parenting Tips Strength in Saying No #ParentingTips #FamilyLife #Fatherhood #ChildDevelopmen #shorts
Pat reflects on how a parent’s willingness to say no gives children a chance to learn responsibility, values, and self-control.
Life Lessons for Kids The World Doesnt Revolve Around Them #ParentingGoals #LifeLessons #shorts
Pat talks about loving and including children while helping them understand that other people have needs and lives of their own.
The Value of Trust in Parenting Risk vs. Reward #ParentingGoals #BuildingTrust #LifeLessons #shorts
Pat considers how allowing a child some freedom to take small risks can help them learn judgment and build trust with a parent.
The secret to great parenting? Love unconditionally, but raise responsibly. #RaisingStrongK #shorts
Pat talks about giving children unconditional love and holding them to clear boundaries at the same time.
Your kids watch how you treat the world. Are you uplifting or just salty? #ParentingTips #Be #shorts
Pat asks fathers to notice how their everyday treatment of other people becomes part of what their kids learn from them.
Parenting Lessons for Life and Leadership #LifeLessons #ParentingMotivation #ParentingRealTalk
Pat reflects on how parenting has changed him as a friend, spouse, and leader, and on the role his circumstances play in that experience.
How Failing Early Helps Kids Succeed Later #LifeLessons #GrowthMindset #KidsSafety #shorts
Pat argues that room for early mistakes can help children gain judgment before they face bigger decisions on their own.
Let Your Kids Make Mistakes and Grow #ParentingTips #RaisingKids #SelfBelief #ParentingJourn #shorts
Pat discusses giving kids chances to struggle, solve problems, and discover what they are able to do for themselves.
Chopping Wood at 3 Parenting Done Right #RaisingKids #WildAndFree #ParentingReality #LifeLe #shorts
Pat shares a clip of a three-year-old chopping wood and reflects on giving children opportunities to practice real skills.
From Fear to Trust A New Parenting Perspective #ParentingJourney #FearlessParenting #LeadByE #shorts
Pat discusses teaching kids to make good choices by building trust and helping them understand the reasons for a rule.
Be the Father They Deserve #Fatherhood #BestDad #ParentingGoals #PurposefulParenting #BeThei #shorts
Pat encourages fathers to be deliberate about the choices their children see and the example those choices set.
Why You Should Never Stop Pushing Your Limits #StayCurious #ChallengeYourself #KeepPushing # #shorts
Pat reflects on staying engaged in life by testing your limits, helping other people, and continuing to ask questions.
Helicopter Parents Hurt Children #parenting #fatherhood
Pat discusses how hovering over children can limit their chances to build skills and learn to handle risks.
Let them help when it’s easier to not #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat encourages parents to let children help with ordinary tasks even when doing it alone would be faster.
Hero, villain, ghost #parenting #fatherhood
Pat asks dads to consider whether their children will remember them as a hero, a villain, or someone who was absent.
Humm #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat discusses why adults’ own difficulty moderating device use informs the boundaries he thinks children need.
Fear #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat considers when fear leads parents to overprotect and how manageable risks can give children practice looking after themselves.
Which one are you modeling for your kids? #parenting
Pat asks parents to look at the behavior they model and consider what their children are learning from it.
Service. Freedom. Humility #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat uses a Marcus Aurelius passage to reflect on finding meaning through service, freedom, and humility.
Suck it Marcus #fathersadvice #parenting #stoicism
Pat uses a story about Marcus Aurelius and his son to reflect on how he can be present, loving, and worth following as a dad.
Make no great again #fatherhood #parenting #no
Pat talks about holding limits around sweets, screens, and video games even when saying yes would be easier in the moment.
Extreme ownership + extreme honesty #parenting #fathersadvice #fatherhood
A brief fatherhood reflection on taking responsibility for your actions and being honest about what you need to change.
A Mans Highest Calling
Pat reflects on the importance of fatherhood and the responsibility he sees in the role.
#intention #fatherhood #parenting
Pat encourages fathers to lead intentionally, examine the reasons for their choices, and give themselves room to learn from mistakes.
Choose your focus