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Pat argues that communication, genuine connection, and taking action are especially valuable when information is easy to find.
Check this New Podcast with Lamont Lomax #Podcast
A preview of Pat’s podcast conversation with Lamont Lomax on fatherhood, co-parenting, and relationships.
Check this New Podcast with Lamont Lomax #Podcast
A clip promoting the Lamont Lomax episode on staying present and influential in your children’s lives.
Boys are powerful, and as they age, they have to learn how to harness that power.
Pat urges fathers to model responsible use of strength and talk with their boys about how to handle growing power.
If this is your patterning, I highly recommend reflecting on it a bit and .........
Pat explains how stepping in to do every task can undermine a child’s confidence in their ability to figure it out.
This is not an ad. I did get given these knives. I tried them out. I think they're awesome.
Pat gives a quick look at the child-friendly knives he tried and points to his longer video about kids helping in the kitchen.
Check this New Podcast with Brennan Falks #Podcast
A clip from the Brennan Falks episode on how parents teach, guide, and model the values they want their kids to learn.
5 Universal Laws Parents Should Understand.
Pat applies five familiar principles to parenting, including interpreting a child’s behavior in light of skills they are still learning.
I have my shirt off because I just worked out and it's hot. #shorts
Pat calls on fathers to pay attention to the work they do on their character and habits behind closed doors.
An easy thing to do would be to send your spouse this post and say, hey, I'd love to try this.
Pat proposes trying a daily five- to ten-second hug with your partner and kids to build more connection at home.
I've met a number of men who live this balance. Hoping to meet many more. #shorts
Pat describes mature masculinity as combining strength and power with warmth, playfulness, and a willingness to let people in.
For some of us this might be our first experience of unconditional love. #shorts
Pat talks about the unconditional love fathers feel for their children and how it can motivate them to grow.
Treating the child like they are the center of the universe will make your life harder #shorts
Pat reflects on the long-term effects of organizing family life around a child’s every want.
I've always had a pretty firm grip on internal insights. #shorts
Pat reflects on learning to pay attention to how his behavior lands with others, alongside understanding his own intentions.
Check this New Podcast with Jamie Glowacki #Podcast #shorts
A preview of Jamie Glowacki and Pat’s discussion of parental authority, boundaries, and responsibility at home.
The principle is sound and I've used it many times. #shorts
Pat explains how natural consequences can help children learn, especially when the parent stays matter-of-fact.
He hates me for me. You have to love that logic. 😂 #shorts
A light moment about a son’s angry words and how their meaning changes as kids grow and gain perspective.
Check this New Podcast with Jamie Glowacki #Podcast #shorts
A clip promoting the Jamie Glowacki conversation on family boundaries, communication, and personal responsibility.
Fun story for those who like stories. #shorts
Pat tells the story of meeting a fellow surfer at a CrossFit seminar and how a custom Robert August longboard came into his life.
If you examine your life closely, there are hundreds of opportunities to do this exact thing #shorts
Pat explains how letting his sons handle packing food for the beach helped them learn to take responsibility for it.
Check this Conversation with Jason Lewis | Podcast #shorts
A preview of Pat and Jason Lewis discussing connection, curiosity, and the work of fatherhood.
I am specifically talking about smart phones with relatively unrestricted access. #shorts
Pat discusses the difference between staying reachable and giving kids unrestricted smartphone access, with basic phones as an option.
Please do this with my information as well. #shorts
Pat encourages viewers to use their own judgment when deciding which ideas to adopt, including the ones he shares.
I married one of these and I am so unbelievably grateful that I did. #shorts
Pat describes how an encouraging mother can help children trust their abilities when they are about to try something challenging.
Of course always balance the struggle with the support. That's the authoritative way. #shorts
Pat describes authoritative parenting as pairing a child’s opportunity to struggle with support they can count on.
Basic tactics make the individual moment easier for the parent. #shorts
Pat asks parents to choose tactics that help the relationship work over time, even when they require more effort upfront.
Yes, I know I shouldn't film while I'm driving but feel free to tell me that in a comment. #shorts
Pat explains how parents can be friendly and supportive while still making the decisions children need adults to make.
The higher our own ceilings are, the better start our children will have. #shorts
Pat asks fathers to develop their physical, emotional, and relational capacities so their kids have a stronger example to build from.
No one can give you the things I mentioned. #shorts
Pat describes the Fathers Guild as a place to test personal changes, ask honest questions, and find other men to hold you accountable.
My wife and I have gained an amazing amount of insight about each other and ourselves from t #shorts
Pat shares how revisiting a book by Esther Perel helped him and his wife understand themselves and their intimate relationship.
If you are permissive, you'll likely see this video as too aggressive. #shorts
Pat reacts to a Purpose Driven Family clip that illustrates authoritative parenting through a combination of firmness and kindness.
How do you begin to consider more kids when one feels so difficult. #shorts
Pat and Taz talk through how to consider having another child when parenting one already feels difficult.
To be truly authoritative you have to have a higher capacity to handle many different situat #shorts
Pat describes the range authoritative parenting asks of adults, including clear rules, compassion, playfulness, and consistent standards.
Parenting is exhausting and difficult, especially when you are new to it. #shorts
Pat explains how putting work into structure and autonomy early can make parenting easier as children become more capable.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A Donovan Owens podcast preview on personal principles and the daily practices that help men live by them.
I honestly think that there's going to be a separation in humanity #shorts
Pat considers how easy access to AI-generated answers could affect independent judgment and the value of lived experience.
Catch the full conversation on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A podcast excerpt about keeping purpose, close relationships, and adventure in view alongside financial success.
Getting an answer is easy. Knowing whether it’s a good one is harder. #shorts
Pat and Ben Skutnik discuss testing the answers you get, checking your reasoning with other people, and changing course when the evidence calls for it.
I've heard a few people quote this recently, that it was "necessary" for raising a good kid. #shorts
Pat questions claims that physical punishment is required to raise good children and discusses the need to match discipline to the child.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A clip promoting the Donovan Owens episode about building routines and applying principles in daily life.
The money conversation is important #shorts
Pat asks prospective parents to prepare for the stress and relationship demands of having children alongside the financial ones.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A preview of Donovan Owens’s conversation with Pat about accountability, personal systems, and practicing the kind of man you want to be.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts #shorts
Donovan Owens defines masculinity through the safety, support, resources, and accountability a man brings to the people around him.
Catch this Latest Podcast with Donovan Owens on my YouTube Channel #shorts
A clip promoting Pat’s conversation with Donovan Owens on turning values and intentions into repeatable habits.
Part of being an Authoritative parent is pushing the threshold of their capabilities. #shorts
Pat encourages parents to let children help with age-appropriate tasks so they can build confidence through experience.
Part of being an authoritative parent requires planning on the front end.
Pat urges partners to agree on what they want for their kids and decide which boundaries and follow-through will support it.
Authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and neglectful #shorts
Pat introduces the four parenting styles and explains the balance of warmth and structure he aims for as an authoritative parent.
Not trying to start a battle around this. This is not a man versus woman debate. #shorts
Pat looks at what notes left for a partner can reveal about trust, control, and how responsibility is shared at home.
You may actually have to pause the TV stand between them and the screen #shorts
Pat shares how advance notice, letting children turn off the TV, and offering an active transition can ease the end of screen time.
If you want low capacity children give them either no boundaries or extremely tight boundaries
Pat explains how children benefit from boundaries that give them room to develop and invites parents to reflect on their default level of control.
Check this Conversation with Phil Tarling | Podcast #shorts
A preview of Pat’s conversation with image consultant Phil Tarling about first impressions, family life, and being present.
What's Best for the Relationship? ❤️🤘🏻 Put the Relationship First #shorts
Pat recalls a conversation with his wife about making choices with the health of their relationship in mind.
I don't mean to send any hate towards this guy. I want all of us to look deeper at the relationships
Pat responds to a dad who feels like a failure when he can’t buy things for his kids and considers what time and attention can give them.
A Podcast with Rob Bill Jr #shorts
In a clip with Rob Bill Jr., the conversation turns to how trying to make family life go perfectly can create tension at home.
Part 2 of 2 #shorts
Pat reflects on how years of working through disagreements helped him and his wife communicate and make each other feel heard.
This is part one of two. #shorts
Pat marks 14 years of marriage by discussing emotional compatibility, shared values, and how intimacy with his wife developed over time.
Latest PODCAST 🎙️with Stefanos Sifandos | Check out the full episode on my YouTube channel. #shorts
A Stefanos Sifandos podcast excerpt about two ingredients for personal growth.
Checkout My latest Podcast with Stefanos Sifandos #shorts
A preview of Pat’s discussion with Stefanos Sifandos on emotional honesty, relationships, and personal growth.
The mic failed, so this is rescued camera audio, which makes it sound like I'm in a tunnel. #shorts
Pat shares what he learned from retreats and conversations with dads about how common struggles with presence, communication, and health can be.
The Grief, The Part of Healing Nobody Talks About #shorts
Pat discusses the place of grief in healing and what it means to make room for pain after a loss.
To be clear, I'm not talking about fitness I'm talking about personal development. #shorts
Pat talks about finding people who challenge you to grow as a father, partner, friend, and leader.
Aside from if you're an on-call surgeon, is there ever a reason to have a phone at the dinner table?
Pat makes the case for a phone-free dinner table as time to slow down and connect with the people in front of you.
"Life before death, strength before weakness, journey before destination" #shorts
Pat explains how the first ideal of the Knights Radiant from The Stormlight Archive became part of The Fathers Guild’s values.
Listen to it, learn from it. Take on board a little bit of it. Not Every Piece of Advice Is #shorts
Pat encourages viewers to learn from advice and test whether it fits the real circumstances of their lives.
Thank you all for your time and insight. 🤘🏻 #shorts
Pat thanks the people who watch, disagree, and share their perspectives for making the conversations around his work better.
For dads who love their kids and know there's always room to grow. #shorts
Pat introduces a community for dads to talk honestly, work on monthly challenges, and keep developing as fathers.
Be great! It starts with looking in the mirror🪞- Episode 24 with Pat, the Fathers Guild Dad, out now
A podcast clip in which Pat calls on fathers to take ownership of the work their families benefit from.
Kids become confident by doing hard things, not by avoiding them. #shorts
Pat discusses giving children a chance to do something difficult and discover their ability to handle it.
❤️🤘🏻 Your Comfort Level Isn't Your Child's Limit #shorts
Pat encourages fathers to examine their own comfort with risk and consider what their child is already capable of doing.
Anybody else have some thoughts on that? manosphere #shorts
Pat reflects on why he follows conversations about the manosphere and what he hopes men can take from those conversations for their families.
Training is another area where we can pass on a better relationship than we may have been given.
Pat asks fathers to model an enjoyable relationship with exercise so their kids grow up seeing movement as something they can do for themselves.
Across my 4 kids there are very different ways of getting them to listen and respond better. #shorts
Pat shares why he adjusts the way he asks and teaches across four children with different personalities and motivations.
Both apologies and learning moments have gone better for me this way. ❤️💀🤘🏻 #shorts
Pat reflects on slowing down, owning a mistake, and staying connected so both the apology and the lesson have room to land.
One of my core principles as a father and a man is honesty and integrity. #shorts
Pat explains why honesty with himself and with other people is foundational to the way he wants to develop as a man and father.
Thanks Frank. You are a damn good man your family is lucky to have you ❤️🤘🏻 #shorts
Pat thanks Frank and reflects on the value of meeting men who are working to show up better in their relationships.
As a father of four strong willed, feral gentlemen I can tell you there is another way... #shorts
Pat reflects on the patience and strength involved in raising four strong-willed boys with a deliberate approach to discipline.
You Weren't Meant to Do This Alone #shorts
Pat discusses finding a community that fits your circumstances and asking other people for support when you need it.
Modern fatherhood isn't just about providing | Podcast with Darren Silver #shorts
Darren Silver talks about nature, awareness, and choosing what kind of father and partner you want to become.
I Went Off-Grid for 5 Days. Here's What Happened. #shorts
Pat shares what five days away from screens and usual routines felt like while hosting an off-grid gathering for fathers.
Distract & Redirect: A Parenting Technique That Actually Helps #shorts
Pat demonstrates distracting and redirecting a child as a way to move through a difficult moment.
My goal is to raise Feral Gentlemen ! #shorts
Pat shares his aim of raising boys who have a sense of adventure and know how to treat others well.
Yelling at Kids Is Not a Sign of Strength #shorts
Pat challenges the idea that yelling builds strong children and discusses the strength it takes to manage his own reactions.
If you want a good relationship, you need to include the other person. I thought that was obvious.
Pat explains how including the other person in decisions and conversations builds a healthier relationship with a partner or child.
I’ve received several messages recently asking this question in response to my recent content.
Pat explains why he returned to social media after three years away and started sharing his own perspective on fatherhood.
I’ve had a few DM’s recently about this due to a few of my recent posts. #shorts
Pat answers why he still posts despite his reservations about social media and talks about creating The Fathers Guild in response.
"For my kids, I want that man to be me." Be the Man You Want Your Kids to Become #shorts
Pat reflects on the responsibility of becoming the kind, capable man his kids can look to as an example.
If you live by the do as I say not as I do motto I recommend examining that a bit closer. #shorts
Pat asks fathers to examine whether their behavior gives children the same example as the instructions they give them.
If you’re looking to build emotionally stunted, underdeveloped adults… let phones raise your kids.
Pat discusses the effects of leaning heavily on phones and the role of parental attention, boundaries, and conversation in child development.
As kids push their own boundaries they become more and more capable. #shorts
Pat explains how a series of smaller challenges gave his boys the confidence and skill to handle bigger ones.
Others' opinions are tools; your self-perception is your true power.(Also, my cat is a traitor 🐱)
Pat discusses considering feedback from others while keeping responsibility for how he sees and evaluates himself.
3 Parenting Hills I’m Willing to Die On #shorts
Pat shares three strong parenting views, including giving kids chances to go barefoot and being honest with them about death.
Building Men in a World Adrift #shorts #podcast #interview #motivational
Don Ross outlines five qualities his men’s groups work to develop, including courage, practical skill, and honor.
Relax, Reset, and Grow: Final Call for Fathers. 3 Spots Left for the Father’s Retreat 🧭 #shorts
Pat invites dads to a retreat where they can step away from daily demands, reflect, and spend time with other fathers.
Adulthood shouldn't mean the end of your tribe. Reclaim your honor. #shorts
Pat discusses the role of close male friendships and accountability in maintaining a sense of honor through adulthood.
I win! After her pottery class, I scoured Craigslist and found 2 wheels and 2 kilns for just $400.
Pat shares the story of finding secondhand pottery equipment to support his wife’s new interest in making dishes for their home.
Why Men Fail Alone (But Win Together) | Isolation is the Enemy. Community is the Cure #shorts
Pat discusses how taking action and holding one another accountable in a men’s group can help people sustain change.
Stop Being A Lone Wolf | Honor Is Earned In The Tribe | Don Ross #podcast #manhood #honor #shorts
Don Ross explains how men earn honor through their actions, commitments, and accountability to people they respect.
This is why I just try to be the best, I can be, of Myself. It makes the rest of my parenting easier
Pat describes how working on his own habits makes parenting easier as his children take cues from what he does.
The Weight of Fatherhood: Achieving True Freedom #TheFathersGuild #HerosJourney #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat explains why accepting the weight of fatherhood is central to the sense of freedom he describes in his family framework.
Stop the "Do As I Say" Parenting Trap 🛡️ #Fatherhood #HerosJourney #RaisingLeaders #shorts
Pat asks parents to show their kids why a habit matters by practicing it themselves.
I’m here for the Heroes. | 15 days left to join me on May The Hero’s Journey #shorts
Pat invites fathers to take on The Hero’s Journey and consider the part they want to play in their family’s story.
In all reality, All four of our boys take turns being the wild one. I’m here for it. 🌪️👊 #shorts
Pat talks about helping each of his four boys put their energy to use while learning to handle limits.
Phones steal our presence. A developing brain doesn’t stand a chance. Be the filter. 📲 #shorts
Pat asks parents to set boundaries around phones and protect children’s attention from highly stimulating content.
Life is just one big series of challenges, so why not start the training in the living room? #shorts
Pat uses playful living-room challenges to give his kids practice trying hard, winning, and losing gracefully.
Stop Being Fragile, Start Being Honest #Fatherhood #TheFathersGuild #HerosJourney #Honesty #shorts
Pat discusses why being honest about vulnerability can help men develop the strength to face difficult things.
When I die I want my kids to find strength in the memory of me. Its Strength on standby. #shorts
Pat reflects on the example he hopes his children can draw strength from after he dies.
Stop Telling Your Kids They Are Fragile #shortsvideo #shorts #fatherhood #parenting
Pat asks parents to consider what hovering, preventing risk, or taking over a task communicates about their child’s capability.
This has been blowing my mind recently with the contrarian stances I see people taking about on here
Pat discusses using skepticism to learn and recognizing when taking a contrary position stops helping him see the issue more clearly.
My Personal Journey with Anxiety | Real Talk on Mental Health | The Father’s Inner Battle #shorts
Pat talks about his experience with anxiety and the role of admitting fear and asking for support in becoming a steadier leader.
Reset Your Brain: The Science of Intimacy #MarriageAdvice #MensHealth #Legacy #HerosJourney #shorts
Pat asks viewers to examine what is driving their desire for intimacy and how that awareness can inform a relationship.
Parenting with a Purpose | The Fathers Guild Podcast #motivation #parenting #podcast #shorts
Joe and Ashley Jernigan explain how shared values can help parents make decisions and lead a family with a clearer purpose.
Surface Level Negativity vs. Deep Connection #shorts
Pat shares how one-on-one conversations and replies to direct messages can reveal more about people than their public comments.
Every child is different, but with our 4th son, the 'plan' just didn't work. #parenting #shorts
Pat and Taz discuss adapting their sleep approach when their fourth son responded differently from their other children.
My 3-Year Evolution Update
Pat reflects on three years of changing how he approaches himself and his family, including becoming more curious about the people around him.
Redefining Success for the Next Generation : The Father’s Choice. #shorts
Pat reflects on what kind of success he wants his sons to have and the role a father plays in setting that example.
Stop worrying about being labeled "dangerous" by the wounded. Focus on embodying #shorts
Pat reflects on why he evaluates how safe and dependable he is through his behavior and the people who know him well.
Moving from Obligation to Connection in Fatherhood | Blake Kasemeier | The Fathers Guild Podcast
Blake Kasemeier and Pat discuss what it feels like when a father shows up at home with attention and genuine connection.
Art: The Bridge Between Our Experiences | The Fathers Guild Podcast #shorts #podcast #fatherhood
Blake Kasemeier discusses how art and language help people share experiences and how that ability carries into parenting.
Stop giving your family your "leftover" energy. My family deserves the best version of me.🔋 #shorts
Pat reflects on giving his family more of his attention and energy and uses journaling to see where that needs work.
Parenting vs. Shaming. Stop calling it 'shaming' and start calling it parenting. 🏃♂️ #shorts
Pat talks about taking responsibility for guiding children and how discussions about that role get interpreted as shaming.
"I hate it most when my dad screams." 💔The $5 Yelling Fine | 30-Day Challenge #shorts #parenting
Pat shares how his children’s feedback about his yelling led him to try a 30-day challenge with a $5 penalty.
How to Turn Your Thoughts into Reality | Devin Linder x The Father's Guild #shorts
Devin Linder discusses using visualization and accountability to make a career and life change he had been thinking about.
The "Relatable Parenting" Set Focus on the "Gentle Parenting" and "Dad Life" side algorithm. #shorts
Pat explains how he adapts the way he gets his sons’ attention, including a closer, more direct approach for one child.
Communal active work does wonders for well being. Stop being miserable. Start moving. 🛠️🤝 #shorts
Pat encourages men to consider how active, hands-on work alongside other people might change the way they spend their leisure time.
Stop trading your child’s health for a moment of quiet. 📱🚫 #shorts
Pat reflects on the trade-off between using a phone to buy a quiet moment and giving children room to handle boredom.
Wisdom given vs wisdom earned. Lived experience is the only real teacher. 🛡️✨ #shorts
Pat argues that experience and practice are how information becomes wisdom a father can use.
Raising a Leader: When He Tells ME How to Do It! 😂❤️ #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat shares a moment when his child confidently tells him how to do something and reflects on watching him find his own voice.
Sometimes you hear a message that just clicks. Thank you @blakeoftoday for a vital reminder. #shorts
Pat credits Blake Kasemeier for a reminder that how fathers lead, love, and reflect becomes part of the example their children live with.
Why Your Circle Defines Your Fatherhood. ❤️💀Words from @save.your.sons #Fatherhood #DadsLif #shorts
Pat reflects on choosing friends who support his growth and influence how he shows up for his family.
What actually makes the difference between a "good" man and a great one? 🤔💬 #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat asks viewers what quality or practice they think helps a good man grow into a great one.
The 13-Year Parenting Secret: Play The Long Game 🏆 #Fatherhood #parenting #parentingchannel #shorts
Pat reflects on encouraging his son to try something over many years and giving him room to choose when he was ready.
In this clip, my wife and I sit down to talk about the things we see differently❤️ #Marriage #shorts
Pat and Taz talk through how they see things differently and how those differences contribute to their partnership.
Huge shoutout to @taylornegley_ for sharing such a great example.🏆 #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat highlights Taylor Negley as an example of how children learn from adults who put their values into practice.
How to Be Your Son's Real-Life Hero 🦸♂️ #Fatherhood #Parenting #shorts
Pat uses his young son’s idea of a superhero to reflect on being someone his children can look up to in daily life.
Love this quote from @dadsavesamerica podcast. Strong Fathers Build Strong Families. #father #shorts
Pat shares a Dad Saves America quote and reflects on the influence strong fathers can have on their families.
Practical advice for fathers who want to lead from the front. Full breakdown is on YouTube. #shorts
A short introduction to Pat’s longer advice on discipline, intention, and the example fathers set at home.
Doing the Work as a Father Changes Everything. There Is No More Important Task Than This #shorts
Pat encourages fathers who know they have work to do to take it seriously because their children are watching how they respond.
Your Sons Dont Need Advice - They Need an Example. Stop Talking. Start Showing. #fatherhood #shorts
Pat asks fathers to show their sons what strength, kindness, and facing difficulty look like through their daily actions.
Honor is dead, but Ill see what I can do #fantasy #stormlight #redrising #fatherhood #shorts
Pat talks about finding examples of honor, masculinity, and fatherhood in epic fantasy books.
Intentional Men Build Better Lives Conversation with @tfitx #intentionalliving #shorts
In a conversation with @tfitx, Pat talks about living with intention and what discipline and purpose look like for a father.
Owning My Failures Made Me a Better Father and Leader #shorts
Pat reflects on reviewing past failures with grace, recognizing his part in recurring patterns, and using that knowledge to become more accountable.
Take the Third Path - The One Most Men Avoid #fatherhood #masculinity #shorts
Pat calls for a deliberate approach to masculinity built around discipline, responsibility, and purposeful action.
Creators Who Constantly Inspire Me (Worth Following) thoughtful, grounded @ #shorts
Pat highlights Birds & Bees as a resource for talking openly with children about sex and human development.
Building Antifragile Men Harder to Kill, Easier to Love #fatherhood #parenting #antifragile #shorts
Pat explains his aim of helping men become more resilient and more available to the people they love.
Tech Less, Be Here More A Reminder for Parents. Put the Phone Down. Pick Your Kids Up #shorts
Pat reminds parents to put devices aside and bring their attention back to the children in front of them.
A Real Conversation on Fatherhood Masculinity w Michael Hustle #fatherhood #htketl #shorts
A preview of Pat’s conversation with Michael Hustle about fatherhood, masculinity, and the way men develop.
Only 3 Mens Retreats This Summer - 8 Spots Each #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat announces three summer men’s retreats and explains the limited group size and what he asks participants to bring to the experience.
Letting Kids Take Risks Confidence, Trust, and the Unknown #parenting #fatherhood #htketl #shorts
Pat reflects on giving a child room to take a risk, watching the result, and using that feedback to build trust.
Raising Kids Through Adventure Lessons From an Adventurous Father #fatherhood #podcast #shorts
Pat highlights Erich Leidums’s perspective on giving children a childhood with outdoor adventure and room to build skills.
Why Healthy Conflict Is Worth Having #fatherhood #growthmindset #shorts
Pat invites a creator to have an open disagreement and explains why he thinks constructive conflict can teach both people something.
Growing Through Love Languages. Mistakes I Made So You Dont Have To #grow #love #fatherhood #shorts
Pat reflects on mistakes he made using love languages and how his understanding of them matured through his relationships.
Masculinity isnt defined by colors or words. Grow stronger. #shorts
Pat questions judging masculinity by color choices or language and asks viewers to think about where actual strength comes from.
Real men share this with the real men in their lives #realmen #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat encourages men to support one another by being honest, reflecting, and showing up when it matters.
A Simple Framework to Grow as a Better Father Every Day #lovelanguage #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat discusses using love languages as a way to notice which small, intentional actions help each of his children feel cared for.
Parenting Isnt One Moment Its the Relationship You Build #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on how repeated interactions build a parent-child relationship and why he considers the whole pattern when reviewing his parenting.
Want a Response? Heres Why I Only Reply in DMs #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat explains why he prefers to respond to people in direct messages and still reads what viewers share in the comments.
Untitled #shorts
Pat explains why he wants to talk openly with his sons about sex, sexuality, and pornography before they encounter it on a device.
Learning, Growing Loving Through the Chaos of Dad Life #fatherhood #parenting #marriage #shorts
Pat reflects on the joy of learning how to handle the demands of fatherhood and marriage without losing sight of the people he loves.
Be the Role Model Your Kids Need Ep. 13 #fatherhood #selfcare #thefathersguild #truth #shorts
On Marc LaFleur’s podcast, Pat talks about working on the example he sets and how small changes can affect the children watching him.
If you want to grow, be ready to hear the hard truth. #fatherhood #growth #parenting #shorts
Pat discusses asking people close to you for honest feedback about your behavior and listening long enough to learn from it.
Dads Try This One Simple Trick to Connect With Your Kid #fatherhood #parenting #dadlife #shorts
Pat shares his son’s unexpected response to a handwritten note and considers small ways fathers can reach out to their kids.
My Son Called Me Out on The Way to The Beach (He Had a Point) #fatherhood #dadlife #shorts
Pat describes listening to his son’s objections on a family surf trip and appreciating that he was willing to speak up.
Need a real dad talk? Forget the comments, Lets chat Slide into the DMs! Im here for you #shorts
Pat invites dads who want to talk about a parenting concern to have a more personal conversation through direct messages.
Say yes when kids ask to help. Its messy, but it matters.#fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat encourages parents to say yes when a young child asks to help, even if the task will take longer or make a mess.
Parenting Tough Questions Showing Both Sides Sharing My Beliefs #parenting #father #shorts
Pat describes showing his kids more than one side of a difficult question and explaining how he reached his own view.
Changing is hard. But changing because your kids need a better human - thats worth it. #shorts
Pat reflects on how wanting his children to have a better example gives him a strong reason to work through difficult changes.
Kids dont need everything, but they do need space #fatherhood #parenting #htketl #father #shorts
Pat makes the case for giving children room to explore, make mistakes, and recover as they develop independence.
Saying yes to adventure saying yes to memories with your kids #fatherhood #Adventure #shorts
Pat credits his wife with nudging him to say yes to travel, hikes, and spontaneous beach days with their children.
Teaching my 3.5-year-old to throw knives? Trust and safety go hand in hand #fatherhood #shorts
Pat shares old footage of a son learning to throw knives alongside his older brother and reflects on differences in coordination and readiness.
One of these is more important than the other two #fatherhood #father #parenting #htketl #shorts
Pat asks viewers to consider which of three priorities deserves the most attention in fatherhood.
Best buddies and rivals priceless memories from our world trip #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat shares a favorite clip from his family’s 2017 world trip and laughs about the rivalry his sons still have.
Be Present Give Stability to others Through Focused Attention Today #fatherhood #manhood #shorts
Pat shares an intention to give the people he meets his full attention and treat that presence as a way to offer stability.
Let Them Explore Nature Adventures Build Strong, Happy Kids #adventure #parenting #shorts
Pat encourages families to get outdoors and give kids room to explore, get muddy, and learn from the terrain around them.
Why Real Strength Matters More Than Just Looking Strong Like, share, and subscribe #shorts
Pat reflects on the kind of strength and physical capability that can help men serve and protect their families.
Weekend Check-In Reach Out Anytime, Dads #fatherhood #parenting #dadlife #shorts
A weekend check-in where Pat invites fathers to reach out if they want to talk or share what they are working through.
Guided by this wisdom from @rorymckernan for 10 years #fatherhood #parenting #HTKETL #shorts
Pat credits Rory McKernan for shaping his goal of raising children who can make good decisions for themselves.
HTKETL #fatherhood #parenting #htketl #thefathersguild #shorts
Pat reflects on his “Harder to Kill, Easier to Love” motto as a reminder to develop strength and remain open to others.
10 years collecting tools now theyre finally ready to use them with me #lucky #forge #shorts
Pat shares the payoff of collecting tools for years and waiting until his boys were ready to ask to work with him at the forge.
Still amazed she saw something in 24-year-old me. Shes incredible. #love #marriage #shorts
Pat shares his gratitude for Taz and reflects on how lucky he feels that she took a chance on him when they first met.
Do they not listenor just think they know better? Big difference. #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on discovering that his son thought he knew better and adjusting how he communicated once he understood that.
Confidence grows when you let them try-even if it takes years #parenting #fatherhood #shorts
Pat describes modeling a skill, waiting for a child’s interest, and giving them a chance to try as a route to confidence.
Confident beliefs dont fear disagreementthey invite conversation #parenting #food #shorts
Pat reflects on hearing a different view as a chance to discuss an idea and learn what someone else sees in it.
Every kid needs something different-quality time quantity #fatherhood #time #parenting #shorts
Pat discusses how each child needs a different amount and kind of attention and why time together depends on the family’s circumstances.
Good friends say what you need to hearexactly how you need to hear it #shorts
Pat appreciates friends who point out something he is missing in a way that makes it easier for him to hear it.
Theres no one right way to feed kidsstay flexible and lead by example. #food #nutrition #shorts
Pat encourages flexibility around feeding children and describes modeling a healthier relationship with food as a place to start.
Most changes feel clumsy at first. The hard talks bring us closer, every time #marriage #shorts
Pat reflects on how he and his wife work through awkward conversations and the closeness they can gain from doing it.
Just checking in. Im still here just working on some other projects. #fatherhood #retreat #shorts
Pat checks in after time away from social media and shares how work on his property’s retreat space has been taking up his attention.
Praise whats good. Call out what hurts. Both matter in fatherhood. #fatherhood #dadlife #shorts
Pat makes the case for naming what people do well and speaking up calmly when their actions hurt themselves or others.
Have had a number of these in my comments recently. #fatherhood #masculinity #selfawareness #shorts
Pat uses a sheepdog analogy to reflect on combining real strength with gentleness when talking about masculinity.
Having been able to grow like this with my wife is something I am so damn grateful for. #shorts
Pat reflects on how letting go of the need to win arguments helped him communicate more humbly with his wife.
Who am I to speak on fatherhood? Maybe just a guy who really loves being a dad. #shorts
Pat explains why loving fatherhood and wanting to share what works in his family led him to speak about it.
This is how you fail fatherhood.Some messages just miss the mark completely #father #failure #shorts
Pat reacts to a parenting message he believes misses what fathers owe their children.
Strong kind. Ive got work to do. #strong #kind #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on his own work to model both strength and kindness for the boys he is raising.
If you feel more comfortable send me a DM. I would love to know what I can help with #shorts
Pat invites fathers to reach out privately if they are more comfortable sharing what they are dealing with that way.
When I eventually host a fatherhood retreat at my house, this will 100 be part of it #shorts
Pat discusses making blacksmithing part of a future fatherhood retreat and why working with metal feels meaningful to him.
Ever talk food philosophy with your kid? Might change everything. #food #nutrition #shorts
Pat encourages parents to talk with their children about what they believe about food and give those choices some thought early.
This Broke My Heart Screens and Our Kids #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat responds to a clip about children and screens and reflects on how adults choose to use technology around their kids.
Anybody else have a similar dynamic? #love #marriage #husbandlife #husbandduties #shorts
Pat shares a funny exchange with his wife about housework and remembers what he will do differently for her plants next time.
Be the worlds best diaper changerits not a competition, its an infinite game #dadlife #shorts
Pat encourages dads to take ownership of diaper changes and enjoy doing that piece of caregiving well.
Growth in marriage takes twoand someone has to take the first step. #love #marriage #shorts
Pat reflects on what happened when he started letting go of small disagreements and how his wife’s willingness to do the same helped them grow.
There is a balance to be struck here #fatherhood #parenting #wayofkings #shorts
A brief fatherhood reflection about finding balance, with a reference to The Way of Kings.
I got lucky. #HusbandAndWife #Blessed #ParentLife #shorts
Pat reflects on how fortunate he feels in his marriage and in the family life he and his wife share.
The strength we give each other isnt about needits about elevating life together. #shorts
Pat describes how he and Taz are capable on their own and give each other additional support as partners.
This little guy gets involved in everythingsometimes too much! #Parenting #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat shares how eager his youngest is to join in what he and his wife are doing and the care that takes when he tries too much.
Why do people do this? Id love to hear different perspectives! #Parenting #Fatherhood #shorts
Pat asks other parents what value they see in using baby talk and invites them to share a different view.
Fatherhood - International Parenting Podcast with @intentionalmindspodcast #fatherhood #parenting
A clip from the International Parenting Podcast about how an involved father can help a child build confidence and feel secure.
12 short years later #grateful #love #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat looks back on 12 years of life with his boys and reflects on the family and sibling relationships that have grown in that time.
Fatherhood - International Parenting Podcast with @intentionalmindspodcast #fatherhood #parenting
A preview of Pat’s International Parenting Podcast conversation about the outcomes he hopes to work toward as an intentional father.
Do we really need legislation to limit this access? Isnt it our responsibility? #ScreenTime #shorts
Pat asks what limits parents can set around children’s internet use while the larger debate about regulation continues.
Your kid wants you, not stuff. Show up, be present, and give them your time #fatherhood #shorts
Pat reflects on a father-son clip and encourages dads to offer their kids time, attention, and direct expressions of love.
Setting meaningful boundaries helps shape my kids journey through life. #RaisingKids #shorts
Pat describes asking why a boundary exists so the limits he sets have a clear purpose for his children.
Why Love Languages Matter Even If Theyre Imperfect #LoveLanguages #Relationships #shorts
Pat discusses using love languages to understand how a partner receives care and to notice when your usual way of expressing it misses them.
Antifragile is the goal for me. Vulnerability isnt weakness its strength #antifragile #shorts
Pat reflects on how acknowledging weakness honestly can help fathers learn to respond better under pressure.
Connect Redirect A Simple Parenting Hack That Actually Works! #parenting #fatherhood #shorts
Pat explains the connect-and-redirect idea from The Whole-Brain Child and how he has used a similar approach with his kids.
Honesty strengthens your soul even when its hard #Honesty #LifeLessons #Parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on the value of telling the truth when it is difficult and on teaching honesty by practicing it around children.
No, Im not paying my kids to make me yell heres why this actually works #noyellchallenge #shorts
Pat responds to questions about whether his $5 No Yell Challenge gives his children an incentive to provoke him and explains how he set the rules.
Unconditional love is the foundation kids need to face lifes hardest moments. #shorts
Pat describes unconditional love and support as a foundation children can draw on when adult life gets difficult.
Finding the Balance Between Caution and Confidence in Parenting #fear #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on teaching appropriate caution while helping children build enough confidence to face unfamiliar situations.
Would love to hear how others handle it and why you have chosen to do what you do #shorts
Pat explains his family’s approach to swearing, including how intent, the people around you, and the setting can change what is appropriate.
Do as I say, not as I do is the worst parenting advice ever. Lead by example! parenting #shorts
Pat explains how children notice the gap between a parent’s instructions and behavior and asks fathers to model what they want to teach.
Finding Better Ways to DisciplineNo Yelling, Just Growth Boundaries #fatherhood #shorts
Pat describes using his No Yell Challenge to practice holding a boundary and disciplining his children with a calmer response.
True Discipline Requires LoveTeaching Kids Accountability Without Fear #love #discipline #shorts
Pat describes loving discipline as showing children how their choices affect others and giving them a chance to take responsibility.
Death is part of life. Being honest with kids mattersjust be ready for all the questions. #shorts
Pat explains why he answers children’s questions about death honestly, including where their food comes from and what they see outdoors.
@rorymckernan shared this with me 10 years ago, and it’s guided me ever since. ❤️💀🤘🏻
Pat credits Rory McKernan for teaching him to aim for children who can make good decisions on their own.
Kinda weird dunking on an ancient philosopher, but Im pretty sure he doesnt mind. #shorts
Using Marcus Aurelius as a prompt, Pat reflects on the example and attention he can offer his children through everyday parenting.
Kids follow what you do, not what you say. Show them how to choose hard things. #shorts
Pat explains how he invites his children to train with him and models choosing difficult physical work even when it is less appealing.
Setting Boundaries Protecting Kids from Social Media Bad Habits #Parenting #fatherhood #shorts
Pat talks about setting firm limits on children’s social media access and holding those boundaries calmly.
Balancing work and love means meeting needs while making sure they feel loved. #Parenting #shorts
Pat discusses meeting a family’s practical needs and making room for the relationships that help them feel loved.
Marriage isnt a competition its an infinite game. Play to keep the game going. #shorts
Pat uses the idea of an infinite game to talk about supporting each other, communicating, and building a marriage worth continuing.
Parenting isnt about sameness its about balance. Celebrate your differences! #shorts
Pat talks about how parents can use their different strengths to support each other and give their children a fuller example.
Words from @save.your.sons #timeovermoney #love #parenting #fatherhood #shorts
Pat shares a reminder from @save.your.sons about giving children time and attention so they feel your love.
Fatherhood starts one-sided, but the bond will come. Just keep showing up. #fatherhood #shorts
Pat encourages dads to keep caring for their babies through the early months while the bond has time to grow.
Antifragile... Vulnerability isn't weakness. Its strength in honesty growth. #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on vulnerability as being willing to see what needs work and take on the challenge of changing it.
You are not alone in this. Speak about it, and youll realize how shared it is. #shorts
Pat speaks about miscarriage and encourages fathers to share what the loss feels like with people who can support them.
I think about this often, Words from @save.your.sons #parenting #dad #father #FatherlyAdvice #shorts
Pat shares words from @save.your.sons that influence how he thinks about the long-term example he sets as a father.
So very thankful for this and didnt think I would be. Having 4 kids helps with the stacking #shorts
Pat describes unexpectedly enjoying the work of stacking firewood with his four kids as they get ready for winter.
A false choice said with conviction is a strong way to win social media I have heard. #shorts
Pat discusses recognizing false choices in online arguments and looking for an option beyond domination or submission.
Broken bonds can heal if we try. Whats your take? #relationships #forgiveness #parenting #shorts
Pat reflects on a harsh comment and considers what it takes to repair a relationship when people are willing to try.
Unconditional love is the best gift we can give our kidsits the ultimate foundation. #shorts
Pat reflects on giving children a steady experience of unconditional love they can draw on as they grow.
Nesting is realmy wifes house projects are a fun part of every baby journey! #parenting #shorts
Pat looks back on the house projects Taz took on before each baby arrived and shares the humor he finds in the pattern.
Do you hand your kids a phone? Why or why not? Lets talk parenting and tech! #parenting #shorts
Pat talks about when he hands his kids a phone and how he balances teaching them to use technology with setting limits.
Navigating tough topics with kids? Keep it basic, balanced, and contextual. #parenting #shorts
Pat shares how he keeps discussions of politics, sex, religion, and other hard subjects concrete and appropriate to a child’s level.
Lets match the discipline to the crime and own our mistakes as parents. #fatherhood #parenting
Pat explains why a consequence should fit the behavior and why it matters to own it when your reaction goes too far.
Your tone shapes trust. I took a moment to have a brief interview with my wife Tamaryn. #shorts
Pat and Taz discuss how children can hear an intense tone as anger and how changing delivery can build more trust.
Life’s a bomb—rest, grow, ask for help, but never let it slip. Keep carrying on. #shorts
Pat expands on his 50-pound-bomb analogy for carrying responsibility and recognizing when to rest or ask someone for help.
Think twice before judging, growth takes effort. Dive deeper. #LifeLessons #KeepGrowing #shorts
Pat encourages viewers to consider someone’s broader context before drawing conclusions about them from a brief clip.
Let kids be kidsno need for politics before 13. Play, dream, explore! #ParentingTips #shorts
Pat shares why he prefers to give younger children more time for play, curiosity, and exploration before involving them in complex political topics.
Changing my tendencies improved my marriage. I highly recommend giving it a try #conflict #shorts
Pat reflects on his default response to conflict and how learning to adjust it improved his marriage.
Question studies, rethink languagetheres no one way to do things! #CriticalThinking #shorts
Pat encourages viewers to ask how a study was done, funded, and framed before relying on claims about what it shows.
Take Responsibility or Stay a Boy with a Mans Face Hard Truth About Growing Up #manhood #shorts
Pat describes accepting responsibility for your actions and your life as an important step toward maturity.
The Power of Saying No Building Better Relationships with Your Kids #parenting #No #shorts
Pat discusses how saying no can give children boundaries they can learn to make decisions within.
The Power of Honesty Build Integrity for Yourself and Your Kids #fatherhood #parenting #shorts
Pat talks about aligning his actions with what he says and modeling that kind of honesty for his children.
Ever try to hammer a screw? Give it a shot sometime. See how that pans out for ya. #shorts
Pat uses a hammer and a screw to illustrate why parents benefit from having several ways to respond to different situations.
I stick with option 1 for now. Later, option 2 is fine, but option 3? Not for us#options #shorts
Pat compares three parenting options and explains why he favors the first for younger kids and allows more flexibility as they get older.
Boundaries vs. chaos is gentle parenting misunderstood? Lets talk balance in raising kids #shorts
Pat explores how gentle parenting can include love, guidance, and clear boundaries children can rely on.
Capability is key from fixing things to protecting loved ones. True strength is readiness. #shorts
Pat discusses being able to solve everyday problems and use physical strength to help or protect the people who depend on him.
Disagreements dont make enemies.They create opportunities to learn.Stay calm,have the convo #shorts
Pat describes staying calm and curious in disagreement so it becomes a chance for both people to learn.
Growing up with divorced parents taught me a lot. Now,I prioritize stay connected with famil #shorts
Pat reflects on growing up with divorced parents and how that shapes the effort he puts into keeping his children close to their grandparents.
Show kids love through words and actions. Include them. Time is preciousthe years are short. #shorts
Pat encourages parents to express love directly, include their kids in what they do, and make time to be together.
Good company Words from @save.your.sons #fatherhood #dad #parenting #life #shorts
Pat shares a reminder from @save.your.sons about how a partner, friends, and everyday habits can shape the direction of your life.
Marriage is about teamwork and commitment dont quit when it gets tough. Counseling helps #shorts
A discussion about treating marriage as teamwork and using communication and counseling to work through difficult periods.
I always let my kids know how I feelno guessing games, Honest communication builds trust #Pa #shorts
Pat describes telling his kids how he feels so they can understand what is going on and learn to talk about their own emotions.
CrossFit Community Where High Support Meets High Expectations #CrossFitCommunity #FitnessJou #shorts
Pat reflects on a CrossFit community built around high expectations and people who support each other in meeting them.
Foster curiosity, courage, and independence in kids. Let them help, explore, and grow #shorts
Pat explains how letting children help, explore, and test their limits can give their natural curiosity and independence room to develop.
Turns out the app wont let me do the private community for free so I have to charge 1.#fathe #shorts
Pat corrects a signup detail and explains why the platform required a $1 charge for the private fatherhood community at that time.
Divorce, Identity, and Starting Over My Story #DivorceRecovery #ParentingAfterDivorce #shorts
The speaker discusses rebuilding a sense of identity after divorce and adjusting to spending less time with his children day to day.
I am not, and have never been caviler with my children. #parenting #fatherhood #ParentingTi #shorts
Pat explains how he gives his children supervised chances to learn and builds trust according to what each child can handle.
Fatherhood in Two Hours The Power of Being Present #ParentingGoals #DadLife #QualityTime #Ki #shorts
Pat shares how two undistracted hours with his children can give him a chance to be fully present and connect.
Raising Sons Who Never Need MeBut Always Welcome Me #FatherhoodGoals #ParentingJourney #Rai #shorts
Pat describes wanting to raise capable, independent sons who grow up to value the relationship they have built with him.
Small Risks,Big Lessons Parenting Insights #TrustKids #LetThemExplore #ParentingLife #BuildingTrust
Pat discusses letting children explore within manageable risks so both parents and kids can learn what they can handle.
Parenting Tips Strength in Saying No #ParentingTips #FamilyLife #Fatherhood #ChildDevelopmen #shorts
Pat reflects on how a parent’s willingness to say no gives children a chance to learn responsibility, values, and self-control.
Parenting Together Divide, Conquer, and Support #ParentingTips #CoParenting #ParentingRole #shorts
Pat shares how he and his wife divide tasks such as cooking and bedtime by strength and step in for each other when needed.
Life Lessons for Kids The World Doesnt Revolve Around Them #ParentingGoals #LifeLessons #shorts
Pat talks about loving and including children while helping them understand that other people have needs and lives of their own.
Parenting as a Team Balancing Strengths and Tasks #ParentingGoals #Teamwork #ParentingTips #shorts
Pat reflects on sharing parenting work in a way that makes use of what each partner is good at.
The Value of Trust in Parenting Risk vs. Reward #ParentingGoals #BuildingTrust #LifeLessons #shorts
Pat considers how allowing a child some freedom to take small risks can help them learn judgment and build trust with a parent.
The secret to great parenting? Love unconditionally, but raise responsibly. #RaisingStrongK #shorts
Pat talks about giving children unconditional love and holding them to clear boundaries at the same time.
Your kids watch how you treat the world. Are you uplifting or just salty? #ParentingTips #Be #shorts
Pat asks fathers to notice how their everyday treatment of other people becomes part of what their kids learn from them.
Parenting Lessons for Life and Leadership #LifeLessons #ParentingMotivation #ParentingRealTalk
Pat reflects on how parenting has changed him as a friend, spouse, and leader, and on the role his circumstances play in that experience.
How Failing Early Helps Kids Succeed Later #LifeLessons #GrowthMindset #KidsSafety #shorts
Pat argues that room for early mistakes can help children gain judgment before they face bigger decisions on their own.
Let Your Kids Make Mistakes and Grow #ParentingTips #RaisingKids #SelfBelief #ParentingJourn #shorts
Pat discusses giving kids chances to struggle, solve problems, and discover what they are able to do for themselves.
Marriage From Struggles to Success #StrongerTogether #LoveAndMarriage #MarriageGoals #LoveWi #shorts
A reflection on working through a difficult period of marriage and putting effort into becoming partners again.
Be Present, Not on Your Phone #BePresent #FatherhoodMatters #QualityTime #Parentinggoals #Da #shorts
Pat urges fathers to set their phones down and give their children more of their attention during time together.
Learning to See Beyond Yourself #PersonalGrowth #EmpathyInAction #UnderstandingOthers #BeThe #shorts
Pat reflects on learning to notice how someone else wants to be treated and adjusting how you show up for them.
Chopping Wood at 3 Parenting Done Right #RaisingKids #WildAndFree #ParentingReality #LifeLe #shorts
Pat shares a clip of a three-year-old chopping wood and reflects on giving children opportunities to practice real skills.
From Fear to Trust A New Parenting Perspective #ParentingJourney #FearlessParenting #LeadByE #shorts
Pat discusses teaching kids to make good choices by building trust and helping them understand the reasons for a rule.
Are You Truly Ready for Kids? Its More Than Finances #HealthyParenting #RelationshipGoals #shorts
Pat asks prospective parents to consider their health, stress management, values, and connection alongside money when deciding if they are ready for children.
What True Vulnerability Really Means Strength in Asking for Help #EmotionalWellness #Persona #shorts
Pat describes vulnerability as being honest about needing help and turning to people who can support you.
Why Growing Up with Siblings Matters #ParentingTruth #GrowingUp #OnlyChildLife #FamilyDynami #shorts
Pat discusses how growing up with siblings gives children everyday practice sharing, adapting, and making room for other people.
Disagreeing Without Being Toxic #RespectfulDebate #StandStrong #SocialMedia #AgreeToDisagree #shorts
Pat talks about holding a strong opinion and speaking respectfully with someone who sees things differently.
Be the Father They Deserve #Fatherhood #BestDad #ParentingGoals #PurposefulParenting #BeThei #shorts
Pat encourages fathers to be deliberate about the choices their children see and the example those choices set.
Why Disagreeing is Key to Growth #GrowthMindset #DifferentPerspectives #HealthyDebate #Socia #shorts
Pat discusses seeking out conversations with people who hold different views and using disagreement to examine what you believe.
How Listening Deepens Relationships #Perspective #Relationships #GrowthMindset #ListenToUnde #shorts
Pat explains how listening to another person’s perspective can reveal something you missed and strengthen the relationship.
Growing Up with Siblings vs Being an Only Child Heres What We Think #lifelessons #familylife #shorts
A family discussion about growing up with siblings, being an only child, and what regular time with siblings can teach.
Adding More Kids The Surprising Truth About Parenting #familylife #RealTalk #GrowingTogether #shorts
Pat reflects on how family life changed as they went from one child to four and what he and his wife learned along the way.
Why You Should Never Stop Pushing Your Limits #StayCurious #ChallengeYourself #KeepPushing # #shorts
Pat reflects on staying engaged in life by testing your limits, helping other people, and continuing to ask questions.
Helicopter Parents Hurt Children #parenting #fatherhood
Pat discusses how hovering over children can limit their chances to build skills and learn to handle risks.
Let them help when it’s easier to not #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat encourages parents to let children help with ordinary tasks even when doing it alone would be faster.
level of importance should be similar to level of individual effort 💀❤️🤘🏻#marriage #fatherhood
Pat reflects on giving the most important parts of marriage and family life a level of effort that matches their importance.
Hero, villain, ghost #parenting #fatherhood
Pat asks dads to consider whether their children will remember them as a hero, a villain, or someone who was absent.
Humm #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat discusses why adults’ own difficulty moderating device use informs the boundaries he thinks children need.
❤️💀🤘🏻 #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat reflects on loving his children’s mother deeply as one way to show up well for the whole family.
Fear #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat considers when fear leads parents to overprotect and how manageable risks can give children practice looking after themselves.
Which one are you modeling for your kids? #parenting
Pat asks parents to look at the behavior they model and consider what their children are learning from it.
Service. Freedom. Humility #parenting #fathersadvice
Pat uses a Marcus Aurelius passage to reflect on finding meaning through service, freedom, and humility.
Suck it Marcus #fathersadvice #parenting #stoicism
Pat uses a story about Marcus Aurelius and his son to reflect on how he can be present, loving, and worth following as a dad.
Make no great again #fatherhood #parenting #no
Pat talks about holding limits around sweets, screens, and video games even when saying yes would be easier in the moment.
Extreme ownership + extreme honesty #parenting #fathersadvice #fatherhood
A brief fatherhood reflection on taking responsibility for your actions and being honest about what you need to change.
I’m sorry is not a time to learn
Pat reflects on giving a child an apology its own space and coming back to the teaching moment later.
A Mans Highest Calling
Pat reflects on the importance of fatherhood and the responsibility he sees in the role.
#intention #fatherhood #parenting
Pat encourages fathers to lead intentionally, examine the reasons for their choices, and give themselves room to learn from mistakes.
Moms training sesh with the boys. She insists they start young and never stop. #dad #mom #parenting
Pat shares Taz training with their boys and her belief in helping them get moving early and keep at it as they grow.
Choose your focus