The Fathers Guild is a training ground for fathers who want to become less reactive, more present, faster to repair, and stronger under pressure.
We are a club for men who use challenge and accountability to train the intangibles of fatherhood.
Goodness is not an identity you claim. It's a reputation your actions earn. Virtue consists entirely in its exercise. Stay Virtuous 🤘
For dads who give a damn
The Fathers Guild started with a simple gut-check: why isn't there a place where guys can talk honestly about being dads?
Not just the Instagram-worthy moments. Not just the high-fives and first steps. I'm talking about the late-night doubts, the pressure to get it right, and the constant weight of everything we carry.
And if that sounds like something you've been craving, pull up a chair. You're not alone, and we are all definitely not done growing.
— Pat
Joining the guild is free. The main thing we ask you to do is show up for the people you care about. Click the button below to join the guild.
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The Library
Everything I've ever made, all in one place.
The library is where all of it lives: full-length videos, podcast episodes, and shorts, sorted into categories so you can go straight to the thing you need today. Training, relationships, growth, parenting, leadership, happiness, podcasts.
Start with the newest post at the top, scroll the ten newest, or pick a focus and browse everything tagged with it. The Beautiful Chaos podcast lives in there too, alongside every guest conversation I've recorded.
Watch in order or wander. It's all there, and it keeps growing.
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The Toolbox
Free downloadable tools that I have built aimed to help you do "the work" of being a good man.
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Retreats
The Heavy Days · Santa Cruz, CA
Leadership under pressure
Show up heavy,
leave light.
Return home, harder to kill, easier to love, and more free to live.
Retreats are leadership training. Good leadership requires the ability to carry weight effectively. You'll spend time away from the noise with other men doing the same work: honest assessment, real effort, and evidence you can bring home to your team and your family.
Guided retreats for men who want to close the gap between who they currently are and who they want to be. Remove the weight you currently carry, be truly present, get a bit uncomfortable, and return home stronger, calmer, more capable.
Group retreats. Father + son coming-of-age retreats. One-on-one personal development intensives.
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